From a chat on Matrix, where it seems it was one of my more coherent moments: 🤪

… Why can’t they just be individuals? Individuals with their own individual beliefs and their own individual reasons for having those beliefs…

And so just default to a stance of respect and courtesy. The fact is, most of your interactions with others will be very limited; approaching those encounters from a place of respect for the complexities of the human mind and an individual’s experiences and traumas costs you very little, typically.

To be human is to generalise, but that doesn’t mean you can’t push back against those tendencies.

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Well, in the context of chat, it would be something like you’ve just done: don’t put words in my mouth, based on my avatar, nick, grammar, etc., and instead ask me to elaborate on points of potential confusion.

And don’t bring agendas to everything. Default to assuming that this is likely an interaction of hours, and people don’t change based on that, typically.

You’ll probably get more from interactions that you’re open to, but, be honest with yourself: if you aren’t up to that, because it isn’t easy, then just default to respect and courtesy, which isn’t difficult, and costs you little. And then excuse yourself, if they’re proper jerks. ;-)

@prologic@twtxt.net Yes, exactly. I mean, we were probably always this judgmental; but now we all have a platform to trumpet it from, solicited or otherwise!

@laz@tt.vltra.plus pointed me to this wonderful quote from Hayek that’s particularly relevant here too, I feel:

[On true, and false, individualism, one] might even say that the former is a product of an acute consciousness of the limitations of the individual mind which induces an attitude of humility toward the impersonal and anonymous social processes by which individuals help to create things greater than they know, while the latter is the product of an exaggerated belief in the powers of individual reason and of a consequent contempt for anything which has not been consciously designed by it or is not fully intelligible to it.

From Individualism and Economic Order, circa 1948. I wonder what he’d make of the Internet. :-P

Agreed, @kt84@twtxt.net! :-)

I mean, part of that is being a small community of higher than average intelligence, of course… lol! ;-)

But I think you deserve lots of credit for building software that has time to reflect built in; I honestly think that’s hugely important, and I’m glad that we’ve preserved it through this rebranding / enhancing.

@prologic@twtxt.net Seriously! @laz@tt.vltra.plus is gonna get sick of me pinging him on every platform we share, thanking him, but… Well, I just love it! It’s on nfld.uk now, for cryin’ out loud! :-P Particularly because I spent quite a bit of time reading Hayek over the last few years and came to the conclusion that we really don’t share much of a worldview… How wrong I was!

@eldersnake@yarn.andrewjvpowell.com I do. And, yup, 💯%.

@jlj@twt.nfld.uk haha, no problem. No alerts on Yarn.social 🙌